Being helpful is not weakness. Being used is different. Ask yourself: Do they need me, or do they just need a body?
The budak is always anxious. The free person is santai . Practice being unavailable. Turn off your notifications. Read a book. Go on a solo date. Prove to yourself that you don't need to be in service to exist.
Let’s be honest. If you are in your late teens or early twenties, you have probably been the budak in at least one relationship. You were the one who stayed up late to comfort a friend who never asked how you were. You were the one who said "I’m fine" when they left you on read for six hours. You were the budak korporat (corporate slave) to a social circle that drained you. Being helpful is not weakness
You are not a budak. You are just a human who loved a little too loudly in a world that was listening on mute.
"Gue capek jadi budak." (I am tired of being a slave.) The budak is always anxious
When you stop being a budak , people will call you selfish. Let them. It is better to be a "selfish" queen/king of your own life than a generous slave in someone else's story. Conclusion: From Budak to Raja of Your Own Hati The POV of jadi budak is a phase. It is a lesson in low self-worth, in the desperate need for validation, and in the terror of being alone. But you will get through it.
One day, you will look back at the GC where you were ignored, the talking stage who used you, and the friend who drained you. And you will feel nothing but pity. Because you are no longer there. You are in your own castle now. Turn off your notifications
So, to the budak reading this: Put down the phone. Stop replying for a while. Go touch some grass. Your loyalty is a gift, not a salary. Stop paying people who aren't hiring you for a role in their heart.