Do not announce your departure. Abusers often escalate violence when they sense a loss of control. Leave when the leader is absent. Take only essentials: ID, medication, a change of clothes.
Use a burner phone or a library computer to create a new email account. Contact a domestic abuse hotline (in the US: 800-799-7233). Do not use group-shared devices. facial abuse hellga free
Reach out to one family member or pre-community friend. Tell them, "I am in a controlling situation that presents as a free lifestyle. I need help exiting without alerting the group." Do not announce your departure